Qualities To Look For In A Husband || Lessons From Boaz

Dear brothers and sisters, I dug into Ruth’s story today and saw Boaz and smiled. I thought to share qualities we learnt from Boaz in The women at the well Bible study collection book today. ** Note that this is an excerpt from the book and you can get the book by mailing 4thewomenatthewell@gmail.com Okay, here goes:   BOAZ (Ruth’s Husband) Most women want a Boaz and rightly so. Who wouldn’t want a man with no description of his physical attributes, but one whose inner attributes makes every woman swoon? […]

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My Commitment: I Will Never Quarrel With My Husband Because Of Money

My dear brothers and sisters, How are you all doing? Hope you are having a blessed month of June like I am.. So I was supposed to put this up last week but long story on why I couldn’t  (please forgive me). About two weeks ago I met a lady in a bus and we got talking.  I could tell that she is a believer as we spoke and it was confirmed not long after. You know, it is so great to meet a believer and just have a time […]

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How God Healed Me Of My Distrust Of Men (And How He Can Heal You Too)

Hello my dear amazing ladies and gentlemen, Hope you all are doing ama-mazingly well? So last week, I had cause to revisit the post I did on my friend who was stabbed by his wife (see lessons from when I almost dated an engaged man HERE). As I reread the post, I was taken down memory lane and began to share some lessons with my sisters on the women at the well group. One of the things I shared was on how God healed me from my distrust of men […]

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25, Single And Deriliously Happy

So technically, I am not 25 yet. I will be 25 in September but I am also not quite 24 right? And 25 just sounds better even though I am wondering how I am 25 so soon! I still remember when I was 16! I was going to base today’s letter on something else but I just got up from my prayer time (I am writing this at 01:51am. (Yes Black I see you  snickering at me, I don’t have insomnia 🙂   I was in the bathroom just now […]

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A.J BLACK: BUT WHY ARE YOU SO PICKY ABOUT CHOOSING A WIFE?

To understand where this is coming from, please read “But why are you so picky about choosing a husband” HERE This is from one of our blog fam Black who I all but harassed to write this (sorry). For our men – the men who wanna do marriage God’s way, I hope this  helps you stand against the flow of the world’s tide. Even I, a lady learned a lot from this. May God give us the gifts of a spouse we all wait for and may we be such […]

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The Struggle Between Letting Go (Of That Guy/Girl) And Letting God

My dear single ladies and gentlemen, I remember that day or rather those days so clearly. Those days of wondering whether I was supposed to leave the relationship I was in or not. You see, I wanted a new life; I wanted a different life, one better than the one which I had. I didn’t know how to get it except to go back to God – the One  I had no intimate knowledge of but simply knew He was there. And so I had discussions with my fellowship vice […]

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Hope For Those From Divorced And Damaged Homes

Dear Single Ladies and Gentlemen, I feel the need to encourage those of us from messed-up homes today. You know, recently I have been feeling tugged on by God to hold a series of relationship, courtship and marriage events wrapped up in line with “Prayers for your future husband”. In fact, our next conference from “The women at the well” will be based on relationships and marriage. And my first response to God was to say that “Lord you know that I am not married”. Not only am I not married, […]

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Ruby Suze: I Like Sex But I Love Intimacy More

Let me just let something out of the bag – I like sex but, I love intimacy. I don’t ever get a ‘headache’ and rarely am I ‘tired’. My husband is a very lucky man. Let me tell you why… Chatting with my best friend one day, she told me that she wants her husband to be her best friend. I rolled my eyes. Like that big time eye roll. The kind where your eyes almost detach themselves from the muscles, hula hoop around your eye socket and return to […]

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Let’s Talk About Breaking Soul Ties

Dear Single ladies and gentlemen, I don’t think that I have ever told you guys about the journey to being free from the boyfriend with whom I had the whole abortion deal with (trust me even I sometimes I am tired of my story, I go “Lord again??” But it seems like the Lord wants to use me as a guinea pig to help others and that’s fine, so far as it helps). Leaving that relationship was such a struggle. We had had so much done together that at first […]

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How To Be Better Wives & Mothers + Husbands & Fathers

My dear single ladies and gentlemen, It’s hard to believe that this is almost the third year running since I started writing Frances’ love letters to you all. The passion still as strong and the message still as clear; we have to do this love and marriage thingy God’s way.   I had a fight with my mom few days back. I should have known it was coming after I wrote Love Never Fails. I always get tests on love when I share on it, like the teacher has to […]

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The 1 Peter 3:1 Kinda Woman || On Submission

Hi hi hi hi sisters! This post has been a long time coming. I mentioned in the Ephesians 5:25 man post that I was going to share on this the next week. Well, that next week is three weeks after. I have had a full past three weekends. The very next next week was TWTW Meet, then Gbile Akanni’s retreat I went for. etc. etc. Lesson? I will no longer make promises about posts. Since my Blackberry – my handy phone for typing is gone, keeping promises about writing what […]

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