My Commitment: I Will Never Quarrel With My Husband Because Of Money

My dear brothers and sisters, How are you all doing? Hope you are having a blessed month of June like I am.. So I was supposed to put this up last week but long story on why I couldn’t  (please forgive me). About two weeks ago I met a lady in a bus and we got talking.  I could tell that she is a believer as we spoke and it was confirmed not long after. You know, it is so great to meet a believer and just have a time […]

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Becoming God’s Own Kind Of Woman

My dear sisters, I have been on a journey with God of recent, one where He keeps tugging me on being His own kind of woman; the Proverbs 31 kind of woman. I first encountered the Proverbs 31 woman from Mama Toju my fellowship Vice President when I was in the University. It was she that also told me about Galatians 5:22 – the fruits of the Spirit. At the time I wrote out Galatians 5:22 and kept seeing it everyday while trying to align myself with it. It’s been […]

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For Those Dealing With Lustful Thoughts

Dear brothers and sisters, This will be one of my most transparent letters yet. As you well know if you aren’t new to this space, I struggled with pornography addiction and masturbation for about 8 years plus before God gave me complete victory over it (you can read my story with addictions and consequent freedom here) It’s been almost three years and I have been totally free! This is not to say that I haven’t been fighting battles to stay free… “It is for freedom that Christ has set us […]

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How God Healed Me Of My Distrust Of Men (And How He Can Heal You Too)

Hello my dear amazing ladies and gentlemen, Hope you all are doing ama-mazingly well? So last week, I had cause to revisit the post I did on my friend who was stabbed by his wife (see lessons from when I almost dated an engaged man HERE). As I reread the post, I was taken down memory lane and began to share some lessons with my sisters on the women at the well group. One of the things I shared was on how God healed me from my distrust of men […]

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Weddings: A Tool For Evangelism

Dear brothers and sisters, Once upon a long time ago I used to be a wedding crasher. My ears used to tingle at the sound of WE to the DDING!! And as soon as I heard that one of my secondary school classmate was getting married, I stormed the day, whether I was invited or not. The last few years has seen my interest in weddings all but die a natural death. Suddenly, I would much rather sleep in than tie asoebi to attend someone’s wedding. The last wedding I […]

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25, Single And Deriliously Happy

So technically, I am not 25 yet. I will be 25 in September but I am also not quite 24 right? And 25 just sounds better even though I am wondering how I am 25 so soon! I still remember when I was 16! I was going to base today’s letter on something else but I just got up from my prayer time (I am writing this at 01:51am. (Yes Black I see you  snickering at me, I don’t have insomnia 🙂   I was in the bathroom just now […]

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But Why Are You So Picky About Choosing A Husband?

Dear Single Ladies And Gentlemen, I remember having an argument with some guys when I was at Nigerian Law School. I had said that I will not accept a man who would cheat on me and I believe that God won’t give me that kind of man and I was told to “go find that kain man na”. I wasn’t a new believer per say but I also really didn’t have totally strong convictions in God then. I was easily swayed by the comments of men and after that argument, […]

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The Struggle Between Letting Go (Of That Guy/Girl) And Letting God

My dear single ladies and gentlemen, I remember that day or rather those days so clearly. Those days of wondering whether I was supposed to leave the relationship I was in or not. You see, I wanted a new life; I wanted a different life, one better than the one which I had. I didn’t know how to get it except to go back to God – the One  I had no intimate knowledge of but simply knew He was there. And so I had discussions with my fellowship vice […]

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Hope For Those From Divorced And Damaged Homes

Dear Single Ladies and Gentlemen, I feel the need to encourage those of us from messed-up homes today. You know, recently I have been feeling tugged on by God to hold a series of relationship, courtship and marriage events wrapped up in line with “Prayers for your future husband”. In fact, our next conference from “The women at the well” will be based on relationships and marriage. And my first response to God was to say that “Lord you know that I am not married”. Not only am I not married, […]

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Why You Should Pray For Your Future Husband

When I was at Nigerian Law School in the year 2014, I had a roommate whose call to my sister on her 17th birthday included prayers for her future husband. I stood listening to the conversation and at the end of the call I jokingly remarked that “my sister is just 17!” Her reply was classic; she said “we are supposed to start praying for our marriage and husbands right from childhood, this is even late” (paraphrased). Today, 3 years later, I totally agree with her. You know, today’s Christian […]

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Let’s Talk About Breaking Soul Ties

Dear Single ladies and gentlemen, I don’t think that I have ever told you guys about the journey to being free from the boyfriend with whom I had the whole abortion deal with (trust me even I sometimes I am tired of my story, I go “Lord again??” But it seems like the Lord wants to use me as a guinea pig to help others and that’s fine, so far as it helps). Leaving that relationship was such a struggle. We had had so much done together that at first […]

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