The Struggle Between Letting Go (Of That Guy/Girl) And Letting God

My dear single ladies and gentlemen, I remember that day or rather those days so clearly. Those days of wondering whether I was supposed to leave the relationship I was in or not. You see, I wanted a new life; I wanted a different life, one better than the one which I had. I didn’t know how to get it except to go back to God – the One  I had no intimate knowledge of but simply knew He was there. And so I had discussions with my fellowship vice president then. Those discussions went something like me saying: “Sister Toju, say a girl is in a relationship and she knows that its wrong and she shouldn’t be there. She […]

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Hope For Those From Divorced And Damaged Homes

Dear Single Ladies and Gentlemen, I feel the need to encourage those of us from messed-up homes today. You know, recently I have been feeling tugged on by God to hold a series of relationship, courtship and marriage events wrapped up in line with “Prayers for your future husband”. In fact, our next conference from “The women at the well” will be based on relationships and marriage. And my first response to God was to say that “Lord you know that I am not married”. Not only am I not married, I am a very unlikely person to be used by God in the area of love, relationships and marriage. If you do not know, I do not come from a […]

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Why You Should Pray For Your Future Husband

When I was at Nigerian Law School in the year 2014, I had a roommate whose call to my sister on her 17th birthday included prayers for her future husband. I stood listening to the conversation and at the end of the call I jokingly remarked that “my sister is just 17!” Her reply was classic; she said “we are supposed to start praying for our marriage and husbands right from childhood, this is even late” (paraphrased). Today, 3 years later, I totally agree with her. You know, today’s Christian woman has a lot of gap to fill when it comes to prayers for her man/marriage. Somehow, we have tilted more into worries that can do nothing instead of tilting […]

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Ruby Suze: I Like Sex But I Love Intimacy More

Let me just let something out of the bag – I like sex but, I love intimacy. I don’t ever get a ‘headache’ and rarely am I ‘tired’. My husband is a very lucky man. Let me tell you why… Chatting with my best friend one day, she told me that she wants her husband to be her best friend. I rolled my eyes. Like that big time eye roll. The kind where your eyes almost detach themselves from the muscles, hula hoop around your eye socket and return to their original position. You see, I was a ‘Hollywood love’ cynic and as the years went on – my cynicism grew. My experience of men was very far from the […]

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Will God Make Me Marry Someone I Am Not Attracted To?

NOTE: This is a sneak peek from the women at the well upcoming book. The book is a collection of studies that include: -The List -Becoming God’s own kind of woman -Marriage God’s way -The character of a godly woman Pre-order on or before February 4th 2017 and also get Frances’ book “Prayers for your future husband” as a free ebook! All for 1500Naira! To pre-order mail 4thewomenatthewell@gmail.com for our treasurer’s account number to be sent to you. Hurry! The price reverts to normal price of 2000 Naira after today. **********************************************************************   CHAPTER 6 WILL GOD MAKE ME MARRY SOMEONE I’M NOT ATTRACTED TO? First of all, we must understand that God doesn’t force anything or anyone on people. “I […]

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Let’s Talk About Breaking Soul Ties

Dear Single ladies and gentlemen, I don’t think that I have ever told you guys about the journey to being free from the boyfriend with whom I had the whole abortion deal with (trust me even I sometimes I am tired of my story, I go “Lord again??” But it seems like the Lord wants to use me as a guinea pig to help others and that’s fine, so far as it helps). Leaving that relationship was such a struggle. We had had so much done together that at first I was scared about how I was going to live alone. The tie was that strong. I remember when I finally had the courage to break the relationship and go […]

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The Truth About Sexual Sin

I was at a speaking engagement last week where God showed Himself in great ways and left me wondering about “what just happened!” I didn’t even intend to speak on anything, I was just going to share on my book “10 steps to walking in purpose”, but then when I think that my heart is tilting more towards money, I ask the Lord to help me see through His eyes. So yes, I went with my books but with an even greater desire to see souls reaped for Jesus. I have been haunted with a need to win souls for God this year and have purposed that every speaking engagement or stuff that I do has to draw in men […]

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When Sex Becomes An Idol

My dear single men and ladies, How are you doing today? I am doing great but for an annoying back pain and some serious stepping up in fervent prayer I have to do. But today isn’t the time to talk about that, let’s leave that for #OnlineBibleStudy.   We had some very “interesting conversations” on the Women at the well this week. From marriage to sex, to parenting, to prayers, etc. etc. Even the married women pitched in and started sharing from their experiences at a time. Don’t worry if you aren’t yet a part of us, look out for our next meet in February which will double as our book launch and join us.   And by the way, […]

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How To Be Better Wives & Mothers + Husbands & Fathers

My dear single ladies and gentlemen, It’s hard to believe that this is almost the third year running since I started writing Frances’ love letters to you all. The passion still as strong and the message still as clear; we have to do this love and marriage thingy God’s way.   I had a fight with my mom few days back. I should have known it was coming after I wrote Love Never Fails. I always get tests on love when I share on it, like the teacher has to eat the pie too. I don’t know how I did with this fight as I broke one rule of love which is the fact that love forgets. I remembered. I […]

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My Body Count For The Year 2016

Body Count Means how many people you had sex with -Urbandictionary.com ******** My dear single ladies and gentlemen, I always have a smile on my face anytime I write to you all… I don’t know, it just gladdens my heart to be on here on Saturdays. You know Frances’ Love Letters started here with me scribbling love notes to Daddy at night – just thoughts from my heart to God regarding love that found their way to the blog. Then I realized that I actually have a passion to see God kind of marriages and homes and that’s why I write letters here each Saturday. I pray God waters the seeds that are being sown here in Jesus name, amen. […]

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The 1 Peter 3:1 Kinda Woman || On Submission

Hi hi hi hi sisters! This post has been a long time coming. I mentioned in the Ephesians 5:25 man post that I was going to share on this the next week. Well, that next week is three weeks after. I have had a full past three weekends. The very next next week was TWTW Meet, then Gbile Akanni’s retreat I went for. etc. etc. Lesson? I will no longer make promises about posts. Since my Blackberry – my handy phone for typing is gone, keeping promises about writing what with light issues and laptop issues is a chore. But things are getting better! Amen. And I am here today so that counts for something huh? Let’s get right into […]

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