Qualities To Look For In A Husband || Lessons From Boaz

Dear brothers and sisters, I dug into Ruth’s story today and saw Boaz and smiled. I thought to share qualities we learnt from Boaz in The women at the well Bible study collection book today. ** Note that this is an excerpt from the book and you can get the book by mailing 4thewomenatthewell@gmail.com Okay, here goes:   BOAZ (Ruth’s Husband) Most women want a Boaz and rightly so. Who wouldn’t want a man with no description of his physical attributes, but one whose inner attributes makes every woman swoon? […]

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Lessons From Our Time With Ladies At Benin

So  today makes it two weeks since our time with the ladies at Benin. Yes on Saturday June 4th 2017 we were at Benin with ladies for “all things courtship and prayers for your future husband”. We had two couples with us: Barr and Barr Mrs Kelvin and Eva Egharevba And Barr and Barr Mrs Godspower and Misan Omokwe. God showed Himself mightily. I especially love how He used the couples to share His truth. He thrashed issues of courtship or dating through them and purity in courtship..   Barr […]

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My Commitment: I Will Never Quarrel With My Husband Because Of Money

My dear brothers and sisters, How are you all doing? Hope you are having a blessed month of June like I am.. So I was supposed to put this up last week but long story on why I couldn’t  (please forgive me). About two weeks ago I met a lady in a bus and we got talking.  I could tell that she is a believer as we spoke and it was confirmed not long after. You know, it is so great to meet a believer and just have a time […]

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Becoming God’s Own Kind Of Woman

My dear sisters, I have been on a journey with God of recent, one where He keeps tugging me on being His own kind of woman; the Proverbs 31 kind of woman. I first encountered the Proverbs 31 woman from Mama Toju my fellowship Vice President when I was in the University. It was she that also told me about Galatians 5:22 – the fruits of the Spirit. At the time I wrote out Galatians 5:22 and kept seeing it everyday while trying to align myself with it. It’s been […]

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For Those Dealing With Lustful Thoughts

Dear brothers and sisters, This will be one of my most transparent letters yet. As you well know if you aren’t new to this space, I struggled with pornography addiction and masturbation for about 8 years plus before God gave me complete victory over it (you can read my story with addictions and consequent freedom here) It’s been almost three years and I have been totally free! This is not to say that I haven’t been fighting battles to stay free… “It is for freedom that Christ has set us […]

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How God Healed Me Of My Distrust Of Men (And How He Can Heal You Too)

Hello my dear amazing ladies and gentlemen, Hope you all are doing ama-mazingly well? So last week, I had cause to revisit the post I did on my friend who was stabbed by his wife (see lessons from when I almost dated an engaged man HERE). As I reread the post, I was taken down memory lane and began to share some lessons with my sisters on the women at the well group. One of the things I shared was on how God healed me from my distrust of men […]

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Weddings: A Tool For Evangelism

Dear brothers and sisters, Once upon a long time ago I used to be a wedding crasher. My ears used to tingle at the sound of WE to the DDING!! And as soon as I heard that one of my secondary school classmate was getting married, I stormed the day, whether I was invited or not. The last few years has seen my interest in weddings all but die a natural death. Suddenly, I would much rather sleep in than tie asoebi to attend someone’s wedding. The last wedding I […]

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25, Single And Deriliously Happy

So technically, I am not 25 yet. I will be 25 in September but I am also not quite 24 right? And 25 just sounds better even though I am wondering how I am 25 so soon! I still remember when I was 16! I was going to base today’s letter on something else but I just got up from my prayer time (I am writing this at 01:51am. (Yes Black I see you  snickering at me, I don’t have insomnia 🙂   I was in the bathroom just now […]

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A.J BLACK: BUT WHY ARE YOU SO PICKY ABOUT CHOOSING A WIFE?

To understand where this is coming from, please read “But why are you so picky about choosing a husband” HERE This is from one of our blog fam Black who I all but harassed to write this (sorry). For our men – the men who wanna do marriage God’s way, I hope this  helps you stand against the flow of the world’s tide. Even I, a lady learned a lot from this. May God give us the gifts of a spouse we all wait for and may we be such […]

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But Why Are You So Picky About Choosing A Husband?

Dear Single Ladies And Gentlemen, I remember having an argument with some guys when I was at Nigerian Law School. I had said that I will not accept a man who would cheat on me and I believe that God won’t give me that kind of man and I was told to “go find that kain man na”. I wasn’t a new believer per say but I also really didn’t have totally strong convictions in God then. I was easily swayed by the comments of men and after that argument, […]

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The Struggle Between Letting Go (Of That Guy/Girl) And Letting God

My dear single ladies and gentlemen, I remember that day or rather those days so clearly. Those days of wondering whether I was supposed to leave the relationship I was in or not. You see, I wanted a new life; I wanted a different life, one better than the one which I had. I didn’t know how to get it except to go back to God – the One  I had no intimate knowledge of but simply knew He was there. And so I had discussions with my fellowship vice […]

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